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Adjusting to Married Life

 Honestly, I love being married. I get to spend every day with my best friend and I get to go to sleep with my crush. I adore Seth and it has been delightful being his wife. One thing I was surprised about, though, was how lonely and isolated I feel during the day while he's at work. I'm busy, of course, as I'm doing 2 online classes, an online Family Life Coaching Course, working from home as a TA for a few hours a week, and then twice a week going into the office for my internship with the Foundation for Family Life. Most days, I never speak during the day because there's no one to talk to—unless I call my sister or a friend, which is very enjoyable, but it's not the same. 

    I have loved being able to be a housewife with my spare time! When I'm not working and studying (or while I'm listening to textbooks), I'm able to clean up around the apartment, decorate, do laundry, and bake some things if I choose. I think I would love to be a housewife and a stay at home mom all the time—it's just a bit cumbersome when I also have all the other responsibilities with school. I think our apartment is coming together beautifully! We just need our storage bench, a nightstand, The Family: A Proclamation to the World, and we need to find a way to keep our curtains up. If anyone has any tips for keeping curtains up on the wall without the stick-on rod holders falling off, I'm all ears! I also need to learn how to hem lace since our lace curtains in the front room drag on the floor quite a bit.

    In our time together, Seth and I are a great team. He typically makes every meal and I do some of the cleanup—he focuses on cleaning the kitchen while I do the rest of the apartment and laundry, which is definitely a fair trade in my opinion! His cooking is amazing and I love that he loves to do it. I try to keep our plants alive and make our apartment a home, and he provides by working and making our food. I get the groceries and he reminds me to take care of myself. I struggle to get up in the morning, so Seth always wakes me up with lots of kisses and breakfast ready along with my medication and a warm blanket. 

    I love our evenings together! It's the best time of the day when he gets home from work. We cuddle, have dinner, watch a movie or play a game or something else to connect, and it's perfect. I feel closer to him and tied to him—like we know each other better than anyone else ever will on earth—and it's wonderful. I think I expected it to be a more drastic change, for everything to be different when we got married, but it's much more subtle than that. I just feel it in my heart, like the still small voice of the Holy Ghost connecting me to the Lord. We didn't suddenly start seeing angels and we aren't perfect or magical or anything like I may have anticipated, but we are closer and it is beautiful.


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